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Anatoly Karlin's avatar

As you correctly note, it's invalid to compare 2009!Russia with 2024!Poland.

Re-1. Correct. For beauty you should go to Krakow. FWIW, yes, Russian women have advanced closer to the Polish/Western archetype over the past two decades.

Re-2. This is the one point I disagree on, and quite profoundly. During my three weeks in Poland (2020), I found it to be the country with the people closest in character to Russians (much more so than, say, Serbs, who are outspoken Russophiles - it's one of the few countries in the world where something like "Russian privilege" can be said to exist - but feel just as "foreign" as Romanians). Both peoples will seethe at this claim, especially Poles, but that just confirms the point - puffed up exceptionalist complexes, albeit by force of circumstances, channeled through different ideological avenues (derzhavnost/national greatness in Russia's case; promethean messianism/Christ-like national suffering to redeem humanity in Poland's).

One way of looking at this is to imagine an alt history in which Poland became big while Russia remained small, and the Church played a major role in its liberation struggles. It would then be a mirror image. (The Church x liberation nexus no longer being in play, Poland is probably the world's most rapidly secularizing country, having gone from a culture in which people would make the sign of the Cross when passing a church on a bus, to one where young people are no less secular than Hungarians or Russians).

Re-5. Standard throughout Eastern Europe, including in Russia, for almost a decade now.

Re-6. First night I was in Poland (Krakow) I saw two buckos after a night out fighting each other, with one knocking the other out. Not to say that it is typical, of course.

There is less alcoholism in Poland than in Russia. However, its incidence has plummeted in Russia, and will likely converge fully in another 1-2 decades. Its provenance in Russia is a matter of pretty concrete historical contingency (role of vodka as tax revenue generator).

Re-8. Accurate. Though when I was there The Witcher show (with its Black actors) was being extensively advertised. I'd say subcons are at 1-2% in Warsaw.

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Michael Kaplan's avatar

Richard, I have never been to Russia, but I have a personal story that speaks to the beauty of Russian women. For five years I was involved with a Russian woman, “D,” who had immigrated to the U.S. as a teenager after the fall of communism. D was in her 30s when I was with her, and moving forward in her career as a medical doctor. She was smart and a brilliant conversationalist with a sexy Russian accent. She was also a big fan of Putin, about which we agreed to disagree: “You Americans don’t understand! Ukraine is southern Russia, and Kiev is where our nation was born!”

Though D had been in America for 20 years, she still thought of herself as Russian more than American. She was focused, sometimes obsessively, on what she called her “aesthetics.” She always dressed exquisitely in fashionable outfits, perfectly applied makeup, and high heels. D was once late for a dinner date claiming she had “an eyelash malfunction.” In her 20s D was a blonde, but when I knew her, she had gone back to her natural brunette hair color. Being with D led me to upgrade my own style of dress to bring it up to her level. And D was quite critical of American women who she thought did not pay enough attention to their appearance: she thought American women “dressed like crap.”

Though I often told D that she was aesthetically perfect, she was never satisfied with her appearance. She would check in the mirror everyday for gray hairs and wrinkles, and would go on a water diet for days whenever she gained a pound, crying “I’m fat!” In truth she was quite slim, worked out, and was in shape. She always talked about getting botox, a facelift, or a butt lift, though she did not need any of them. D said her greatest fear was getting old and fat, losing her beauty, and turning into a stereotypical babushka.

Anyway, D and I broke up four years ago, our relationship a casualty, in part, of the COVID crisis. D was treating a lot of COVID patients which took a heavy emotional toll on her. She has since gotten married and is now a mother, something far more important than aesthetics.

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